Mentoring Helps, But Can You Be Mentored?
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“When the student is ready the teacher will appear.” — Buddha
Let’s start with a definition of the word “Mentorship”:
Mentorship is a relationship in which a more experienced or more knowledgeable person helps to guide a less experienced or less knowledgeable person. — Wikipedia.org
We all know some benefits of having a mentor, but for me personally, these are the best reasons:
- They accelerate your learning curve;
- They expand your connections;
- They tell you the cold, brutal truth; and
- They motivate you.
Here are some articles on the subject:
- The Value Of Having A Mentor — The StartUp
- Benefits Of Having A Mentor — Monster.co.uk
- 10 Benefits of Having A Mentor — SurfCareers.com
- 6 Key Benefits Of Having A Mentor — Fortune.com
However, the point of this article is more fundamental than that:
Are you even worth a mentor’s time?
Sounds harsh right? I’m saying that on purpose.
To receive the benefits of mentorship, it has to be a mutual relationship. There are some unspoken “principles” that exist to make the relationship work. In this article, I’ll focus on what are some good qualities to be mentor-able:
Listen, Be Open-Minded
A mentor will give you advice on a solution to a problem based on their experience. They take their precious time because they want to help YOU. You owe it to them to listen to what they have to say.
They will often tell you things you don’t yet comprehend. Be open-minded. Don’t correct them. Don’t interrupt them when they speak. Try to grasp their point of view.
Take notes. It shows you value their time. It’s also much easier for you to remember their advice.
Don’t check your cellphone or smart watch. Don’t check the time unless you’ve got something…